Insecurity is a bug that gets to everyone regardless of their age and profession. So don’t worry, you’re not alone! It is a feeling of inadequacy that makes us second guess ourselves. Not the most pleasant of emotions and you want to get rid of it but it keeps creeping up on you now and then , just like a second-rate Mojo Jojo.
Why is it dangerous?
Second guessing ourselves is not the only harm it is causing us. Think of all the joy that is sucked out, all the time we waste by letting our insecurities get the best of us. We lose a lot of opportunities, want to go and hide but most importantly we start to lose our voice, the essence of who we are.
What can you do ?
As Children and as adults, we all have at some point in our lives compared ourselves with someone. Maybe a friend, maybe a cousin.The feeling is horrible, I know, and of no use at all. It’s not helping you or anyone.
The person you are comparing yourself to might be good at xyz thing and that is great because everyone is unique which leaves you free to discover your own powers.
The more and better you know yourself and the things that you can do, the less you feel the need to compare yourself with someone else.
Insecurity about being judged.
People judge and have opinions about that goal you couldn’t achieve this year, you’re too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, etcetera. Such circumstances inevitably lead to feelings of insecurity and could do more damage if not put in check sooner.
Sometimes we cannot immediately change what has happened but we can change our perspective. Turn your insecurity as a inspiration for yourself and for others for how you are handling it. How you are not bogged down by the judgements from others, how you are surviving despite the many hurdles. Inspire yourself!
The next time insecurity creeps in, remember to have a little shift in perspective because anything other than this is just not that way it’s done.